It’s Still Happening, But It’s OK

Over the weekend, we ran into somebody we hadn’t seen in at least a year.

“So, how’s Stuart?”

He was brought to tears when the Dad Peep told him that our precious boy crossed the bridge.

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As painful as it can be when someone asks about Stuart, it’s almost a comfort to talk about him. He really touched lives. More than we knew.

This big ‘ole world can be ugly, can’t it? Lots of it isn’t pretty.

But when someone asks about Stuart, it’s better in a sad kind of way.

And when an unknown neighbor passes by your house and retrieves a stray house flag that had blown out of its holder, rolls it up neatly and leaves it at your front door, that’s kindness.

That happened over the weekend, too.

People amaze me. Just as Stuart did.

 

About The Scottie Chronicles

Winston welcomes you to The Scottie Chronicles - a dog blog that began in 2009 as a voice for Stuart, a more than memorable black, brindle and white Scottish Terrier who captured hearts around the world. Stuart passed suddenly in December 2015 from cardiac hemangiosarcoma, a nasty cancer that took him far too early. He would have been 11 years old in March 2017. The Scottie Chronicles is dedicated to Stuart and the joy he shared with everyone who met him or saw him from afar. If you love Scotties, please follow along. Arroooo!
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28 Responses to It’s Still Happening, But It’s OK

  1. corkscot says:

    Stuart was loved by everyone. I get comments when I am out without the dogs,. You can see people hesitate to ask after them. I just say that it is against their religion to walk. They are happy in the cool house.

  2. lauramarec says:

    That’s so true…there is still kindness in peoples’ hearts, though sometimes it seems its all about hating everyone who is different from us! All of our actions and lives have consequences that affect others, and then there is the domino effect of our actions! Kindness begets kindness! Even the existence of God’s precious gifts of animals make ripples that we can never ignore or forget, as in the very obvious case of Stu, and all of those precious furry Angels who God lovingly placed in our lives to love and love us back so perfectly because that is ALL they are capable of! Our sweet furry Angels make us strive to be the beings that they perceive us to be! This certainly makes me want to not disappoint them, and to strive also not to disappoint the One who sent them to us, as an Example of His Love. He knew that their lives shared with us would help us to persevere through difficult situations, when we remember and reflect on the perfect example of the Love our pets gave us, and permanently etched in our hearts!! That is why it is so bittersweet! It is so painful, but Oh so GLORIOUS that we have shared in that perfect LOVE!

  3. WestScott says:

    While we’re glad people remember our fur kids, it can be a very difficult and awkward situation when asked where they are. Especially for those of us, like me, who can find it very hard to talk about without breaking down, which only makes those who asked feel worse. But, it is a chance to remember them, and to talk about them, which is a way to keep them with us. It’s just . . . so . . . hard.

    • You’re right. It took me a long time to talk to people when they ask. I used to leave it up to the Dad Peep to handle while I turned away. That’s not kind of me. I think I’d rather cry about him than not think about him at all. Which I’ve done. Stay Scottie Strong.

  4. Two French Bulldogs says:

    Oh boy it’s so hard when people ask. When you are outside and see a butterfly, it’s Stuart checking in
    Lily & Edward

  5. theguster says:

    The situation you describe is difficult for everybody, the person asking and for you to have to explain about Stuart. When someone touches our heart with a sincere expression of sorrow or a gesture of kindness, that helps to take the edge off of that feeling that the big ‘ole world can be ugly.

    You and the dad peep couldn’t know when you chose him just what you were both in store for. Your journey with Stuart has touched so many lives, and we remain on the journey with you.

    McDuff & Mom

    • You really hit the nail on the head. We didn’t know what was in store. And we couldn’t have imagined what would happen. Life is such a learning process every step of the way. Stuart taught us so much. That may sound corny, but it’s true. I like to think the Dad Peep and I are better people because of him and BoBo. Anipals teach us to love unconditionally. Just as they do. Thank you for remaining on our journey. Which isn’t over.

  6. Stuart touched so many lives. The fact that the person cried when he heard about Stuart’s passing says it all. Wags, woofs and licks to you both ~ Kona xo

  7. He was a special dawg. koala bear hugs to both of you.
    Fact. I found out that Bacon the pig’s doggie wears a thunder shirt because of Stuart’s recommendation and of course my Jack wears one too also because of the recommendation.
    Kindness is actually everywhere. ❤ ❤ <3.

  8. Stu sure was a special puppers. One of the good ones. As much BS there is in the world right nows, sometimes peeps really can surprise you with random acts of kindness. That is always the most heartwarming, I think. Well…that and margaritas…☺
    Kisses,
    Ruby ♥

  9. Kismet says:

    When they ask, you gotta give them the truth.

  10. Oh I understand… only one question can bring back the darkest day… Hugs to you and a hug to the friendly neighbor who took care of your house flag…

  11. We agree with everyone….but Kismet, you have to give them the truth in a gentle way that doesn’t make them feel badly for asking. Mama always finds it amazing how people associate me with her, and if, on the rare occasion does anything without me, they want to know where I am.

  12. Piglove says:

    aaww hugs sweet friend. It is definitely bitter sweet when people asked about our loved ones that have crossed the rainbow bridge. We recently got asked about Mouse Girl as well. It’s such a sad moment on one hoof and then on the other hoof you get to relive her life all over again. We so feel you. ❤ XOXO – Bacon

  13. Every now and again some of the neighbors will ask about Cinderella when Momma is out walking us. It always hurts a little, but she said it’s become a good hurt instead of a bad one.

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